Loving Money: A Healing, Empowered Approach to Finances for Women

Mascari, Brooke - May 3rd, 2025

Money is one of the most emotionally charged aspects of life. For many women, it’s not just about dollars and cents—it’s about safety, worthiness, freedom, and legacy. And when money has historically been a source of stress, scarcity, or confusion (especially growing up in a household where finances were strained or mismanaged), those emotions don’t disappear as we become adults. Instead, they often show up in our earning, spending, saving, and self-worth.

But what if money could feel… good?

What if we could retrain ourselves to like money, not in a greedy, materialistic way, but as a loving, empowered partner in building the life we’re meant to live?

It’s absolutely possible. And here’s how we start.

1. Reframe Money as a Neutral Tool—Not a Moral Issue

Many of us grew up believing money was somehow bad—that wanting it made us greedy, or that having too much made us selfish. But money itself is not good or bad; it’s a neutral tool. It’s like a hammer. You can build a house with it, or break a window. The outcome depends on the person holding it.

When women with big hearts and deep purpose have more money, they do more good. They invest in their health, their families, their communities. They support causes they care about. They rest more. They give more. They heal generational wounds.

So the first shift is this: you are not bad for wanting money. You are wise for wanting to direct it with intention.

2. Understand Your Inherited Money Beliefs

If your family struggled financially or had a lot of emotional turmoil around money, you probably absorbed that tension, even if no one explicitly taught you about money.

Did you hear things like:

• “We can’t afford that.”

• “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

• “Rich people are greedy.”

• “You have to work hard for every penny.”

These beliefs can get embedded in your subconscious and shape your relationship with money today. But the good news? Beliefs are not facts. And beliefs can be rewritten.

Try this: write down the top three money beliefs you inherited. Then ask yourself, “Are these serving me now?” If not, rewrite each one into an empowering truth. For example:

• Instead of “Money is stressful,” try “Money is something I’m learning to manage with confidence and grace.”

• Instead of “I’ll never have enough,” try “I am opening to more than enough, with ease.”

3. Practice Financial Self-Care (Without Shame)

Just like we brush our teeth, eat nourishing meals, and care for our emotional well-being, tending to our money is a form of self-care. And it deserves to be approached with compassion, not shame.

Start small:

• Track what you have with gratitude, not judgment.

• Create a simple spending plan that feels like freedom, not punishment.

• Celebrate every positive financial choice, no matter how small.

Money responds well to attention, clarity, and respect. The more you give it those things, the more empowered you’ll feel.

4. Make Money a Feminine Force

For so long, finances have felt like a cold, masculine domain—numbers, spreadsheets, scarcity, pressure. But women are redefining wealth as something whole and sacred. Something connected to flow, intuition, and nourishment.

What if you thought of money like water? It moves, it nourishes, it flows in and out. When we hoard it out of fear, it stagnates. When we spend it without consciousness, it drains. But when we learn to work with it—budgeting with intention, investing with wisdom, and giving with joy—it becomes a life-giving stream that supports our growth.

Let your feminine energy shape your finances. Create a beautiful money ritual—light a candle while you check your accounts. Thank each dollar for what it’s provided. Infuse your financial goals with love, not pressure.

5. Visualize a Joyful Money Future

Despair around money often comes from not being able to see a brighter financial future. But your mind is powerful. Visualization creates possibility.

Try this: Imagine your future self, five years from now. She’s peaceful with money. She knows how to earn, save, spend, and give from a place of joy and alignment. She feels supported. She trusts herself. She no longer fears lack. She feels rich in money, in time, in freedom.

Ask her: What did you do to get here? What habits did you change? What beliefs did you let go of?

Now bring those answers back with you. Use them as a map.

6. Build a Money Legacy of Love

Healing your relationship with money isn’t just about you. It’s about every woman who comes after you; your children, your sisters, your community. You have the power to break generational patterns of scarcity, stress, and financial shame.

When you choose to like money, respect it, and use it for good, you lead the way. You become the example of what’s possible.

Final Encouragement

You deserve to have a relationship with money that feels healing, not harmful. Expansive, not limiting. Joyful, not dreadful.

It starts with believing that money can be a loving part of your life.

It continues with small, intentional steps that build your confidence.

And it blossoms when you realize that your worth was never tied to your bank account, but that your bank account can absolutely reflect the deep value you bring to the world.

Let yourself like money. Let it like you back.